to make me feel this way.
Like theyâll ever hire you now
Well, you royally f*cked that up
If you get on the train, youâll die. Nobody should die on the 6hr54 to Waterloo
Who am I kidding, I canât do this
Maybe Iâll just drive into the central reservation
What if Suzy is dead? Shit, Suzy is dead. I canât believe Suzy died.
Of course, Suzy is fine.
Wooooah, nowâŚ
They didnât die. You didnât leave the lights on. That person didnât take that thing the wrong way. You are not useless!
Boy oh boy, the shit we torture ourselves with, and itâs not our fault, intrusive thoughts can pop into our minds out of nowhere. How we handle them can be the difference between a weird moment and a total meltdown, here are some tips.
Talk to yourself with kindness
Six years ago, Guy Winch did this amazing TED talk about practising emotional first aid. Itâs well worth a watch, but the bitesize takeaway is to talk to ourselves as we would a friend. If your friend said they thought they were useless, what would you say back? I bet itâs different to what you say to yourself today.
Lols, that was weirdâŚ
Itâs nice to mix things up. Occasionally Iâll have one pop in my head that feels especially random. Okay, honestly, itâs probably that âSuzy is deadâ. Although Suzy isnât Suzy, itâs my husband Aaron, and he just ate a nut (#allergies) and now heâs Joe Bloggs in a hospital corridorâŚ
In that situation, I often take a metaphorical step back, look at the thought and just give it a nice big - Lol. I observe it like I would someone on a TV sitcom and just smirk and move on. Itâs. So. Powerful. It just shuts that shit down.
Give it a go, let me know which works for you.
Until next week,
AmberÂ
Every day Iâm balancinâ
Canât stop, wonât stop
Listening to Stormzyâs One Second (feat. H.E.R.). Late to the game, I know. But itâs so powerful and reminds me of the wonderful work we do at Shout UK.
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